Are you flirting with me?

Oh my gosh I’m watching ‘The Mindy Project’ and am having such a moment.

I swear that romantic comedies have ruined me for romance.  Always looking for the perfect guy that you get to ‘meet cute’.  You know where you meet at the bookstore perusing the science fiction/fantasy section and casually strike up a conversation where we instantly ‘click’.  I’ve spent the last few years lowering my romantic expectations but it’s soo hard since what woman doesn’t want to be swept off her feet?  But I’ve been like Rapunzel waiting in my castle for my Prince to come for so long that I can’t stand to wait even one more moment so have taken my fate out of the Gods hands since they haven’t sent the love I want my way.  I’m not one of those women who are looking for the ‘traditional’ package.  A man who’s super successful, alpha tough, a fancy car and big house and of course handsome.  I’m looking for my perfect guy who’s a bit geeky, socially inept, loves all things science fiction, believes that CN is awesome, plans his life around attending conventions, is so smart it’s almost intimidating and is well really nice.

I just can’t believe that I never meet him.  I mean I may have met him but two socially inept people have a hard connecting since who knows when each one is flirting?  I mean I can never tell when a man is flirting with me and am always confused.  I will meet a guy who I like and will get my flirt on.  All the stuff that the dating books say are ‘signs’ that your interested for instance touching my hair, looking in his eyes, gentle touching, laughing at his jokes (no matter how NOT funny) and lots of sexy eye contact flirting (looking away, looking up at him, etc).  But nothing happens so then I wonder is he gay?  Just not interested in me and so wasn’t flirting with me from the get go?  Is he just talking to me because he’s bored??? Who knows I never do and so usually get frustrated and just give up/walk away.  I mean really I met a guy and we talked for TWO freaking hours and then pfft nothing happened.  I mean literally my jaw dropped since according to dating books, advice columns, long discussions with friends he was exhibiting all the signs of interest but then he didn’t do anything.  I couldn’t figure out what was going on in his mind but I’ll chalk it up to a learning experience.  Namely that I have no idea what men are thinking!

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