First things first — Be HONEST

I went to a networking event and chatted with a couple of men.  I was very pleased with how charming, smart, funny and really good looking they were.  It was too bad they were both involved (married, engaged, not interested) but all of them casually dropped in the conversation with a light hand.   The conversation kept flowing since I had no expectations (told me in the first 10 minutes) and so no uncomfortable moments.

I always tell my friends that everyone (man, woman, gay, straight, transgender, etc) that honesty is the best way to go.  I’ve always thought it’s really mean when you lead someone on just to give yourself an ego boost or use the excuse that you don’t want to make the other person uncomfortable.

If you casually say in the flow of conversation that your not interested, dating someone, gay or straight depending on the situation it than leaves you both on the same page.

Examples:

• My girl/boyfriend would really like to see that movie.  Thanks for mentioning it.
• .. yeah I’m getting pressured to have kids.  (reply) Are you married?  (reply) No engaged and planning the wedding….
• .. shrug.. am so taking a break from dating and focusing on my job search.   Being out of work is so stressful!
• We have no time for anything with the demands of kids and work!

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Cherry

I live in Los Angeles and am a professional in the new media communication and marketing field with experience in non-profit, education, healthcare, political campaign and volunteer management. I’m a trustworthy honest creative professional that is able to offer strategic counseling on marketing & communications using social media.

In my spare time I enjoy cultural events, going to the movies, being a foodie, getting in shape and dating.

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