When looking for love it’s not about settling but changing your mindset. I was watching my guilty secret Millionaire Match on Bravo with Patti Stanger who was giving some major gems once you tune out the craziness. 
They had Robin Kassner, an attractive plus sized woman seeking love in all the wrong places AGAIN! She turned to Patty for a second bite of the marriage apple in Los Angeles but didn’t get the reality of physical attraction. She wants what she wants but the problem seems to be what she wants doesn’t want her. I’m the first to say ‘don’t settle’ but do believe in reevaluation when your wants aren’t working.
If you want a super fit tall good looking man or woman you must ask yourself are you on the same physical footing? If not you are looking for a unicorn a creature out of fantasy that nobody has seen. Most people are with their equal or at least in the ballpark. You will see physical mismatches but often theirs a power or money dynamic where physical attraction or money is an equalizer.
If your unwilling to date your physical counterpoint don’t be surprised if your ideal isn’t seeking you out. So you have a couple of options…
1. Work on getting fit
2. Change your mindset
It’s as easy as that. I’m being sarcastic it’s not easy if it were everyone would find love and be happy.
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